When someone experiences trauma it can mean having difficulty in forming and maintaining healthy relationships with others.  It is common that a person who has experienced trauma can experience any or all of these:

• Difficulty going to sleep at night
• Difficulty staying asleep at night, often waking up one or more times throughout the night
• Re-experiencing terrifying memories
• Flashbacks
• Nightmares or night terrors
• Emotional numbness
• Emotionally disconnected from others
• Difficulty trusting people
• Difficulty in recovering or normalizing after an upsetting event
• Obsessive thinking
• A racing mind

Trauma can be more broadly understood as an adverse life event

Adverse life experiences or events can include both violations and voids.

Violations are those events that significantly impacted your life where someone or something inflicted or imposed something upon you.  This can be whether you only witnessed it or it directly happened to you.

Voids are those things that should have happened to you, things that you should have had but didn’t.  Adverse life events or experiences that involves voids in one’s life can include (things you should have had growing up):

• Healthy nurturing touch
• Food
• Shelter
• Clothing
• Parents that loved and cared for you and significantly met your physical, social, emotional and intellectual needs.
• Where there has been lack there has been an adverse life experience that has altered your life whether knowingly or not.

Developmental Issues

Both Developmental and Trauma issues are considered adverse life experiences.  Often people can understand traumatic events more than developmental trauma.  Developmental issues or trauma involve the type of attachment you developed from your primary care givers.  Since this issue takes a little more knowledge to understand it is often not recognized by us because we have normalized it.

Attachment styles developed in childhood

These attachment styles are a result of parental emotional connection, lack thereof, and frightening or unpredictable behaviour.  Attachment theory, according to Bowlby and Ainsworth, tells us that the first 18 months of a child’s life is critical to the quality of attachments made with the primary caregiver.  The quality of attachment or lack of it starts with instinctual behaviours such as clinging and crying, and also how the parent reacts to their child (Kennedy & Kennedy, 2004).  Dr. Daniel Siegel has been doing some valuable research in this area with respect to child and adult attachment.  Below are some noted attachment styles developed in childhood and then the following list shows the personality style manifested in adulthood.

• Secure Attachment 
• Avoidant Attachment 
• Ambivalent/Anxious Attachment 
• Disorganized Attachment

In adulthood attachment can be understood as:

• Secure Personality
• Dismissive Personality
• Preoccupied Personality
• Fearful-Avoidant Personality

In another article I will further explore these styles but for now I wanted to simply make mention of these to give some further curiosity and clarity as to what can help make up developmental trauma (issues).

When someone comes in to see me for therapy I like to explain adverse life events in this manner, there are two sides – the developmental side and the trauma side.  The developmental side I already briefly explained above.  The trauma side of adverse life experiences can include events that have happened to you that were major, as in a capital ’T’ trauma, and as smaller types of trauma, as in a small ’t’ trauma.  Plus, we need to consider, was the trauma a single incident, repeated, or was it pervasive in occurrence?  All of these considerations are important because when you understand what happened to you and how it impacted you then you can begin your journey to healing.  Without recognizing what impacted you, and how it impacted you, it is nearly impossible to resolve your issues.

For example, a capital ’T’ trauma could include:  sexual abuse, natural disaster, violence, murder, and the like.  Where a small ’t’ trauma could include bullying, pain during a medical or dental procedure, verbal abuse.  Sometimes we see things that have happened to us as ‘not that big of a deal’.  When anything is pervasive or repeated more than once it is considered a capital ’T’ trauma.  

All adverse life experiences, added up, can create in our lives numerous problems.  The long and complicated list of such problems are too numerous to list.  The good news is that through good therapy you can resolve these issues and heal your soul.

Yes, you can heal.  Therapy is a journey even though we would like it to be purely a destination.  Patience in the process is critical.  You didn’t develop your issues over night.  Often they are the result of years of unresolved issues.

There are a number of therapies that need to be considered for this process of healing your trauma(s) and developmental and attachment issues.  Some of the following therapies or processes have helped many people recover:

• EMDR
• BRAIN HEALTH THERAPY
• EMOTIONAL FREEDOM TECHNIQUES
• HOMEOPATHY
• HEART COHERENCE
• PYSCHOSOMATIC ENERGETICS
• FRASER’S DISSOCIATIVE TABLE TECHNIQUE

Changing how you feel is important because that is how you are energized, motivated, and the quality of life you live in.  Start taking some good healthy steps today.  Book your appointment today and get started on your healing journey!

Are you looking for alternative approaches to resolving or enhancing your mental health?  More and more people are seeking a more holistic and natural approach to mental health.  According to the Fraser Institute in 2016 they stated that 79% of Canadians have used at least one alternative therapy sometime in their lives.

Many issues can be addressed to some degree using talk therapy styles (counselling) to remedy emotional and relational struggles, but all too often talk is not enough.  Through a couple of decades of practice the best clinical results occur when both talk type of therapy and (CAM) Complimentary and Alternative Medicine approaches are utilized.  A combination of numerous approaches proves to show the best results in helping to resolve mental health issues.

Clinical experience for us has shown that the best approach to resolving relationship issues, adult attachment issues, anxiety, panic attacks, depression, PTSD, grief, and many other issues is to approach therapy and counselling from a two-pronged approach.  Using EMDR and Homeopathy.

EMDR Approach

EMDR (Eye Movement and Desensitization and Reprocessing) is a therapy that stimulates the two hemispheres of the brain which facilitates and accelerates the relearning of emotionally adverse and traumatic events. This bilateral stimulation of the brain done through an 8 phase process resolves the majority of a person’s issues given within the adverse life event(s).  It is said to be an AIP model, Accelerated Information Processing.  This moves past traditional talk therapy because of its speed in brain processing.  This may not be right for everyone but once a person is prepared it is marvellous in its lasting results.

SPECT imaging and fMRI results of EMDR have been documented to show the radical and effective changes it does to the brain and ultimately the person’s life.

Homeopathic Approach

From a natural holistic, CAM, approach emotions and feelings can be both regulated as well as processed to bring healing and resolution.  Within nature there are powerful means by which we can help shift mood, balance hormones, and shift the electrical aspects of the brain and nervous system.

Through clinical practice it has been evidenced that those that have utilized both EMDR and a naturopathic approach to treatment have successfully resolved their issues.  Some of these issues are both physiological and in nature such as:  anxiety, IBD issues, PTSD, depression and anger, liver and bile flow issues, lung and fear issues, ADHD and brain and nervous system function, and much more.

Other effective therapies provided

• Emotional Freedom Techniques 
• Sensorimotor Psychotherapy
• Psychosomatic Energetics
• Psycho Dynamic 
• And much more

The CAM or holistic natural approach to resolving relational, mental, and emotional issues proves to be very effective in healing and bringing resolution to the spirit, mind, body, and relationships.

Issues addressed

Resolving your mental health issues is a must because it will not only hinder your quality of life ly and emotionally but also it will eventually impair your physical health. Some medical doctors have stated that unresolved emotional issues are at the root of 70-95% of all chronic illnesses and degenerative diseases.   These unresolved emotional issues and mental illnesses often have their root cause in such abuses and traumas as: 

• sexual assault and abuse
• physical assault 
• verbal and emotional abuse
• monetary abuse
• neglect in childhood
• medical or dental trauma

We offer individual therapy and counselling to people in person as well as though distance counselling.  We are here for the Oakville, Ontario community for in person, face to face counselling or through distance counselling methods using Skype or FaceTime.  We have aided many from Oakville, Ontario with lasting results.  

Our physical office is but a short drive from Oakville to our office in Burlington you will find it worth the drive. If you only interested in relief to help you feel better we can do that for you.  If you desire to dig deeper and resolve your issues from the roots on up we can do that for you as well.  Call today or book online which ever is the most convenient for you.