<?xml version="1.0" encoding="UTF-8"?><rss version="2.0"
	xmlns:content="http://purl.org/rss/1.0/modules/content/"
	xmlns:wfw="http://wellformedweb.org/CommentAPI/"
	xmlns:dc="http://purl.org/dc/elements/1.1/"
	xmlns:atom="http://www.w3.org/2005/Atom"
	xmlns:sy="http://purl.org/rss/1.0/modules/syndication/"
	xmlns:slash="http://purl.org/rss/1.0/modules/slash/"
	>

<channel>
	<title>mental health | New Hope Counselling</title>
	<atom:link href="https://newhopecounselling.com/tag/mental-health/feed/" rel="self" type="application/rss+xml" />
	<link>https://newhopecounselling.com</link>
	<description>Counseling center</description>
	<lastBuildDate>Sun, 29 Dec 2019 00:31:52 +0000</lastBuildDate>
	<language>en-US</language>
	<sy:updatePeriod>
	hourly	</sy:updatePeriod>
	<sy:updateFrequency>
	1	</sy:updateFrequency>
	<generator>https://wordpress.org/?v=6.9.4</generator>

<image>
	<url>https://newhopecounselling.com/wp-content/uploads/2017/03/cropped-new-hope-logo-32x32.png</url>
	<title>mental health | New Hope Counselling</title>
	<link>https://newhopecounselling.com</link>
	<width>32</width>
	<height>32</height>
</image> 
<site xmlns="com-wordpress:feed-additions:1">164883398</site>	<item>
		<title>How To Get The Most Out Of Counselling</title>
		<link>https://newhopecounselling.com/how-to-get-the-most-out-of-therapy/</link>
		
		<dc:creator><![CDATA[James Miklos, MCC, R.P.]]></dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Wed, 09 Oct 2019 08:28:03 +0000</pubDate>
				<category><![CDATA[EMDR Therapy]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Marriage]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Psychology]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[addiction counseling]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[counseling]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[counselling]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[couples counseling]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[couples counselling]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[marriage counseling]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[marriage counselling]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[marriage therapy]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[mental health]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[psychology]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[psychotherapy]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[therapy]]></category>
		<guid isPermaLink="false">https://newhopecounselling.com/?p=7272</guid>

					<description><![CDATA[]]></description>
										<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p><div class="et_pb_section et_pb_section_0 et_pb_with_background et_section_regular" >
				
				
				
				
				
				
				<div class="et_pb_row et_pb_row_0">
				<div class="et_pb_column et_pb_column_4_4 et_pb_column_0  et_pb_css_mix_blend_mode_passthrough et-last-child">
				
				
				
				
				<div class="et_pb_module et_pb_text et_pb_text_0  et_pb_text_align_left et_pb_bg_layout_dark">
				
				
				
				
				<div class="et_pb_text_inner"><h1 style="text-align: center;"><span style="color: #edf000;"><b>How To Get The Most Out Of  Counselling</b></span></h1></div>
			</div>
			</div>
				
				
				
				
			</div>
				
				
			</div><div class="et_pb_section et_pb_section_1 et_pb_with_background et_section_regular" >
				
				
				
				
				
				
				<div class="et_pb_row et_pb_row_1">
				<div class="et_pb_column et_pb_column_4_4 et_pb_column_1  et_pb_css_mix_blend_mode_passthrough et-last-child">
				
				
				
				
				<div class="et_pb_module et_pb_text et_pb_text_1  et_pb_text_align_left et_pb_bg_layout_dark">
				
				
				
				
				<div class="et_pb_text_inner"><h1 style="text-align: center;"><b>  Getting the most out of therapy</b></h1></div>
			</div>
			</div>
				
				
				
				
			</div>
				
				
			</div><div class="et_pb_section et_pb_section_2 et_section_regular" >
				
				
				
				
				
				
				<div class="et_pb_row et_pb_row_2">
				<div class="et_pb_column et_pb_column_4_4 et_pb_column_2  et_pb_css_mix_blend_mode_passthrough et-last-child">
				
				
				
				
				<div class="et_pb_module et_pb_text et_pb_text_2  et_pb_text_align_left et_pb_bg_layout_light">
				
				
				
				
				<div class="et_pb_text_inner"><p><img fetchpriority="high" decoding="async" class="wp-image-7300  alignleft" src="https://newhopecounselling.com/wp-content/uploads/2019/10/Nature-light-in-forest-300x200.jpg" alt="" width="332" height="221" /><span style="color: #333333;">To get the most out of therapy takes a few steps of preparation.<span class="Apple-converted-space">  </span>Since you are probably paying for your therapy or counselling sessions it would be prudent to come prepared to listen, participate, and to talk.</span></p>
<p><span style="color: #333333;">It’s important to understand that your therapist is not a magician or miracle worker though they are skilled individuals that have been trained to help connect with, be compassionate, be a good listener and facilitator in helping you with your problems.</span></p></div>
			</div>
			</div>
				
				
				
				
			</div>
				
				
			</div><div class="et_pb_section et_pb_section_3 et_pb_with_background et_section_regular" >
				
				
				
				
				
				
				<div class="et_pb_row et_pb_row_3">
				<div class="et_pb_column et_pb_column_4_4 et_pb_column_3  et_pb_css_mix_blend_mode_passthrough et-last-child">
				
				
				
				
				<div class="et_pb_module et_pb_text et_pb_text_3  et_pb_text_align_left et_pb_bg_layout_light">
				
				
				
				
				<div class="et_pb_text_inner"><h1 style="text-align: center;"><span style="color: #ffffff;"><b>Is it a good fit?</b></span></h1></div>
			</div>
			</div>
				
				
				
				
			</div>
				
				
			</div><div class="et_pb_section et_pb_section_4 et_section_regular" >
				
				
				
				
				
				
				<div class="et_pb_row et_pb_row_4">
				<div class="et_pb_column et_pb_column_4_4 et_pb_column_4  et_pb_css_mix_blend_mode_passthrough et-last-child">
				
				
				
				
				<div class="et_pb_module et_pb_text et_pb_text_4  et_pb_text_align_left et_pb_bg_layout_light">
				
				
				
				
				<div class="et_pb_text_inner"><p><img loading="lazy" decoding="async" class="wp-image-7282  alignright" src="https://newhopecounselling.com/wp-content/uploads/2019/10/handshake-drawn-with-words-of-connection-300x150.png" alt="" width="440" height="220" /><span style="color: #333333;">Finding the right therapist for you can take some investigation as well as spending some of your money.<span class="Apple-converted-space">  </span>Though I am a therapist myself, I too have pursued therapy and though I am trained in this field I understand that after I have done my due diligence to search out the type of therapist I would like to see that I may end up not resonating with the therapist, this happens and that’s okay.<span class="Apple-converted-space">  </span>Be sure though to look at yourself especially if you have seen numerous therapists and have only stayed with them for a short period of time.<span class="Apple-converted-space">  </span>If possible before you book your first appointment try to find out what is the therapist’s style, what is the process that the therapist wants to take you through, be open-minded, investigate, and ask questions.<span class="Apple-converted-space">  </span>Remember nobody is perfect and no therapist can read your mind.<span class="Apple-converted-space">  </span>If your personalities don’t connect well then it may be best to pursue another therapist.</span></p></div>
			</div>
			</div>
				
				
				
				
			</div>
				
				
			</div><div class="et_pb_section et_pb_section_5 et_pb_with_background et_section_regular" >
				
				
				
				
				
				
				<div class="et_pb_row et_pb_row_5">
				<div class="et_pb_column et_pb_column_4_4 et_pb_column_5  et_pb_css_mix_blend_mode_passthrough et-last-child">
				
				
				
				
				<div class="et_pb_module et_pb_text et_pb_text_5  et_pb_text_align_left et_pb_bg_layout_light">
				
				
				
				
				<div class="et_pb_text_inner"><h1 style="text-align: center;"><span style="color: #ffffff;"><b>Suggestions to get the most out of therapy</b></span></h1></div>
			</div>
			</div>
				
				
				
				
			</div>
				
				
			</div><div class="et_pb_section et_pb_section_6 et_section_regular" >
				
				
				
				
				
				
				<div class="et_pb_row et_pb_row_6">
				<div class="et_pb_column et_pb_column_4_4 et_pb_column_6  et_pb_css_mix_blend_mode_passthrough et-last-child">
				
				
				
				
				<div class="et_pb_module et_pb_text et_pb_text_6  et_pb_text_align_left et_pb_bg_layout_light">
				
				
				
				
				<div class="et_pb_text_inner"><ul>
<li><img loading="lazy" decoding="async" class="wp-image-7294  alignright" src="https://newhopecounselling.com/wp-content/uploads/2019/10/success-ahead-road-sign-300x154.jpg" alt="" width="438" height="225" /><span style="color: #333333;">Know that you need help, don’t come because you want to fix someone else.</span></li>
<li><span style="color: #333333;">Take some notes, at least some mental notes, of what you want to discuss with your therapist from the onset of the session.</span></li>
<li><span style="color: #333333;">If you have had other therapy/counselling sessions be sure that you have followed through and completed or practiced your given assignments.</span></li>
<li><span style="color: #333333;">Be aware that getting upset with your progress may not be your therapist’s issue it could be your own anxiety issues projecting onto your therapist, therefore be ready to own your own stuff and take personal responsibility for your progress.<span class="Apple-converted-space">  </span>If you need to let your therapist know about your frustrations concerning your progress let them know kindly and clearly.</span></li>
<li><span style="color: #333333;">Therapy is a journey more than a process or an assembly line of treatment.<span class="Apple-converted-space">  </span>Going faster sometimes means moving slower.<span class="Apple-converted-space">  </span>Relax knowing that this time is for you.</span></li>
</ul></div>
			</div>
			</div>
				
				
				
				
			</div>
				
				
			</div><div class="et_pb_section et_pb_section_7 et_pb_with_background et_section_regular" >
				
				
				
				
				
				
				<div class="et_pb_row et_pb_row_7">
				<div class="et_pb_column et_pb_column_4_4 et_pb_column_7  et_pb_css_mix_blend_mode_passthrough et-last-child">
				
				
				
				
				<div class="et_pb_module et_pb_text et_pb_text_7  et_pb_text_align_left et_pb_bg_layout_light">
				
				
				
				
				<div class="et_pb_text_inner"><h1 style="text-align: center;"><span style="color: #ffffff;"><b>Personal transformation</b></span></h1></div>
			</div>
			</div>
				
				
				
				
			</div>
				
				
			</div><div class="et_pb_section et_pb_section_8 et_section_regular" >
				
				
				
				
				
				
				<div class="et_pb_row et_pb_row_8">
				<div class="et_pb_column et_pb_column_4_4 et_pb_column_8  et_pb_css_mix_blend_mode_passthrough et-last-child">
				
				
				
				
				<div class="et_pb_module et_pb_text et_pb_text_8  et_pb_text_align_left et_pb_bg_layout_light">
				
				
				
				
				<div class="et_pb_text_inner"><p><img loading="lazy" decoding="async" class="wp-image-7283 size-medium alignleft" src="https://newhopecounselling.com/wp-content/uploads/2019/10/success-man-jumps-starry-swirl-300x200.jpg" alt="" width="300" height="200" /><span style="color: #333333;">To have successful therapy it is important to note that not every session will be revolutionary or life changing but rather your consistent participation in the process will build a therapeutic momentum transpiring in overall healing and even exceptional healing moments.</span></p>
<p><span style="color: #333333;">Once you leave a session notice what happened, what you said, what the therapist said, what you learned, how you felt, what you need to discuss further and possibly even give your therapist some feedback to gain further clarification, especially if you didn’t like something that transpired during the session.</span></p></div>
			</div>
			</div>
				
				
				
				
			</div>
				
				
			</div><div class="et_pb_section et_pb_section_10 et_pb_with_background et_section_regular" >
				
				
				
				
				
				
				<div class="et_pb_row et_pb_row_9">
				<div class="et_pb_column et_pb_column_4_4 et_pb_column_9  et_pb_css_mix_blend_mode_passthrough et-last-child">
				
				
				
				
				<div class="et_pb_module et_pb_text et_pb_text_9  et_pb_text_align_left et_pb_bg_layout_light">
				
				
				
				
				<div class="et_pb_text_inner">&nbsp;</p>
<p><img loading="lazy" decoding="async" class=" wp-image-1409 alignleft" src="https://newhopecounselling.com/wp-content/uploads/2015/07/2015-James-Miklos.jpg" alt="" width="110" height="126" /><span style="color: #000000; font-size: large;"><strong><em>Written by</em><a style="color: #000000;" href="https://newhopecounselling.com/counsellor-burlington-ontario/"> James A. Miklos, MCC</a></strong>.    James has been <a style="color: #000000;" href="https://newhopecounselling.com/individual-counselling-couples/">counselling</a> providing mental health therapy for over 25 years.  James has numerous publications and periodicals, he has also self-published the book,<a style="color: #000000;" href="https://newhopecounselling.com/methods-of-therapy/dream-work-counsellor/"> “The Biblical Art of Dream Interpretation”</a>.  He also is available for<strong> <a style="color: #000000;" href="https://newhopecounselling.com/speaking-engagement/">speaking engagements</a></strong> as well as conducting<strong> <a style="color: #000000;" href="https://newhopecounselling.com/methods-of-therapy/seminars-workshops/">workshops and seminars</a></strong> as well.</p>
<p>In addition, James Miklos holds memberships and accreditations with the following recognized organizations:</p>
<ul>
<li>College of Registered Psychotherapists of Ontario</li>
<li>CASC – Canadian Association for Spiritual Care</li>
<li>ACTA – The Association of Counselling Therapy of Alberta Registered as Counselling Therapist</li>
<li>EMDR Canada</li>
<li>EMDRIA</li>
</ul>
<p></span><br />
<span style="font-size: large;">© 2021 James A. Miklos. All rights reserved.  To copy or quote any of this material the entire citation and credit must be posted.</span></p>
<p>&nbsp;</div>
			</div>
			</div>
				
				
				
				
			</div>
				
				
			</div><div class="et_pb_section et_pb_section_11 et_section_regular" >
				
				
				
				
				
				
				<div class="et_pb_row et_pb_row_10">
				<div class="et_pb_column et_pb_column_1_4 et_pb_column_10  et_pb_css_mix_blend_mode_passthrough">
				
				
				
				
				<div class="et_pb_module et_pb_blurb et_pb_blurb_0 et_animated  et_pb_text_align_left  et_pb_blurb_position_top et_pb_bg_layout_light">
				
				
				
				
				<div class="et_pb_blurb_content">
					<div class="et_pb_main_blurb_image"><a href="https://newhopecounselling.com/individual-counselling-couples/"><span class="et_pb_image_wrap et_pb_only_image_mode_wrap"><img loading="lazy" decoding="async" width="480" height="317" src="https://newhopecounselling.com/wp-content/uploads/2015/07/In-Person-Counselling-Burlington-ON.jpg" alt="" srcset="https://newhopecounselling.com/wp-content/uploads/2015/07/In-Person-Counselling-Burlington-ON.jpg 480w, https://newhopecounselling.com/wp-content/uploads/2015/07/In-Person-Counselling-Burlington-ON-300x198.jpg 300w" sizes="(max-width: 480px) 100vw, 480px" class="et-waypoint et_pb_animation_top et_pb_animation_top_tablet et_pb_animation_top_phone wp-image-1641" /></span></a></div>
					<div class="et_pb_blurb_container">
						<h4 class="et_pb_module_header"><a href="https://newhopecounselling.com/individual-counselling-couples/">In Person Counselling</a></h4>
						
					</div>
				</div>
			</div>
			</div><div class="et_pb_column et_pb_column_1_4 et_pb_column_11  et_pb_css_mix_blend_mode_passthrough">
				
				
				
				
				<div class="et_pb_module et_pb_blurb et_pb_blurb_1 et_animated  et_pb_text_align_left  et_pb_blurb_position_top et_pb_bg_layout_light">
				
				
				
				
				<div class="et_pb_blurb_content">
					<div class="et_pb_main_blurb_image"><a href="https://newhopecounselling.com/couples/marriage-counselling/"><span class="et_pb_image_wrap et_pb_only_image_mode_wrap"><img loading="lazy" decoding="async" width="800" height="442" src="https://newhopecounselling.com/wp-content/uploads/2017/04/New-Hope-Counselling-for-Couples.jpg" alt="" srcset="https://newhopecounselling.com/wp-content/uploads/2017/04/New-Hope-Counselling-for-Couples.jpg 800w, https://newhopecounselling.com/wp-content/uploads/2017/04/New-Hope-Counselling-for-Couples-600x332.jpg 600w, https://newhopecounselling.com/wp-content/uploads/2017/04/New-Hope-Counselling-for-Couples-300x166.jpg 300w, https://newhopecounselling.com/wp-content/uploads/2017/04/New-Hope-Counselling-for-Couples-768x424.jpg 768w" sizes="(max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px" class="et-waypoint et_pb_animation_top et_pb_animation_top_tablet et_pb_animation_top_phone wp-image-1474" /></span></a></div>
					<div class="et_pb_blurb_container">
						<h4 class="et_pb_module_header"><a href="https://newhopecounselling.com/couples/marriage-counselling/">Couples & Marriage Counselling</a></h4>
						
					</div>
				</div>
			</div>
			</div><div class="et_pb_column et_pb_column_1_4 et_pb_column_12  et_pb_css_mix_blend_mode_passthrough">
				
				
				
				
				<div class="et_pb_module et_pb_blurb et_pb_blurb_2 et_animated  et_pb_text_align_left  et_pb_blurb_position_top et_pb_bg_layout_light">
				
				
				
				
				<div class="et_pb_blurb_content">
					<div class="et_pb_main_blurb_image"><a href="https://newhopecounselling.com/life-coaching/"><span class="et_pb_image_wrap et_pb_only_image_mode_wrap"><img loading="lazy" decoding="async" width="470" height="312" src="https://newhopecounselling.com/wp-content/uploads/2015/07/Gestalt-Counselling-Burlington-ON.jpg" alt="" srcset="https://newhopecounselling.com/wp-content/uploads/2015/07/Gestalt-Counselling-Burlington-ON.jpg 470w, https://newhopecounselling.com/wp-content/uploads/2015/07/Gestalt-Counselling-Burlington-ON-300x199.jpg 300w" sizes="(max-width: 470px) 100vw, 470px" class="et-waypoint et_pb_animation_top et_pb_animation_top_tablet et_pb_animation_top_phone wp-image-1658" /></span></a></div>
					<div class="et_pb_blurb_container">
						<h4 class="et_pb_module_header"><a href="https://newhopecounselling.com/life-coaching/">Life Coaching</a></h4>
						
					</div>
				</div>
			</div>
			</div><div class="et_pb_column et_pb_column_1_4 et_pb_column_13  et_pb_css_mix_blend_mode_passthrough et-last-child">
				
				
				
				
				<div class="et_pb_module et_pb_blurb et_pb_blurb_3 et_animated  et_pb_text_align_left  et_pb_blurb_position_top et_pb_bg_layout_light">
				
				
				
				
				<div class="et_pb_blurb_content">
					<div class="et_pb_main_blurb_image"><a href="https://newhopecounselling.com/methods-of-therapy/brain-health-therapy/" target="_blank"><span class="et_pb_image_wrap et_pb_only_image_mode_wrap"><img loading="lazy" decoding="async" width="1920" height="1279" src="https://newhopecounselling.com/wp-content/uploads/2019/09/brain-head-rays.jpg" alt="" srcset="https://newhopecounselling.com/wp-content/uploads/2019/09/brain-head-rays.jpg 1920w, https://newhopecounselling.com/wp-content/uploads/2019/09/brain-head-rays-1280x853.jpg 1280w, https://newhopecounselling.com/wp-content/uploads/2019/09/brain-head-rays-980x653.jpg 980w, https://newhopecounselling.com/wp-content/uploads/2019/09/brain-head-rays-480x320.jpg 480w" sizes="(min-width: 0px) and (max-width: 480px) 480px, (min-width: 481px) and (max-width: 980px) 980px, (min-width: 981px) and (max-width: 1280px) 1280px, (min-width: 1281px) 1920px, 100vw" class="et-waypoint et_pb_animation_top et_pb_animation_top_tablet et_pb_animation_top_phone wp-image-7035" /></span></a></div>
					<div class="et_pb_blurb_container">
						<h4 class="et_pb_module_header"><a href="https://newhopecounselling.com/methods-of-therapy/brain-health-therapy/" target="_blank">Brain Health Therapy</a></h4>
						
					</div>
				</div>
			</div>
			</div>
				
				
				
				
			</div>
				
				
			</div></p>
]]></content:encoded>
					
		
		
		<post-id xmlns="com-wordpress:feed-additions:1">7272</post-id>	</item>
		<item>
		<title>Pathway to Better Health</title>
		<link>https://newhopecounselling.com/pathway-to-better-health/</link>
		
		<dc:creator><![CDATA[James Miklos, MCC, R.P. in Counseling and Psychology]]></dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Thu, 21 Jul 2016 18:47:23 +0000</pubDate>
				<category><![CDATA[Mind Body]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Psychology]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Uncategorized]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[counseling]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[counselling]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[difficulties]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[emotions]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[health]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[mental health]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[mind body]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[naturopathy]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[psychiatry]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[psychology]]></category>
		<guid isPermaLink="false">http://newhopecounselling.com/?p=814</guid>

					<description><![CDATA[]]></description>
										<content:encoded><![CDATA[<div class="et_pb_section et_pb_section_12 et_section_regular" >
				
				
				
				
				
				
				<div class="et_pb_row et_pb_row_11">
				<div class="et_pb_column et_pb_column_4_4 et_pb_column_14  et_pb_css_mix_blend_mode_passthrough et-last-child">
				
				
				
				
				<div class="et_pb_module et_pb_text et_pb_text_10  et_pb_text_align_left et_pb_bg_layout_light">
				
				
				
				
				<div class="et_pb_text_inner"><p>In 1890 Pavlov, a Russian physician and  , accidentally discovered, through investigating the dog’s gastric function, the   response that he called Classical Conditioning.  Classical Conditioning can be defined as, “conditioning in which the conditioned stimulus (as the sound of a bell) is paired with and precedes the unconditioned stimulus (as the sight of food) until the conditioned stimulus alone is sufficient to illicit the response (as salivation in a dog)… “<a href="#_ftn1">[1]</a> In plain words classical conditioning is when something happens often enough the subject begins to elicit a response be it physiological, emotional and/or intellectual.  So if something happens to us or doesn’t happen to us often enough we develop an automatic response or should I say reaction.  We all too often react instead of respond and that is because we have been conditioned to do so.<img loading="lazy" decoding="async" class=" wp-image-3954 alignright" src="http://newhopecounselling.com/wp-content/uploads/2016/07/display-dummy-golden-757450_1920-300x200.jpg" alt="" width="515" height="343" srcset="https://newhopecounselling.com/wp-content/uploads/2016/07/display-dummy-golden-757450_1920-300x200.jpg 300w, https://newhopecounselling.com/wp-content/uploads/2016/07/display-dummy-golden-757450_1920-600x400.jpg 600w, https://newhopecounselling.com/wp-content/uploads/2016/07/display-dummy-golden-757450_1920-768x512.jpg 768w, https://newhopecounselling.com/wp-content/uploads/2016/07/display-dummy-golden-757450_1920-1024x683.jpg 1024w, https://newhopecounselling.com/wp-content/uploads/2016/07/display-dummy-golden-757450_1920-610x407.jpg 610w, https://newhopecounselling.com/wp-content/uploads/2016/07/display-dummy-golden-757450_1920-1080x720.jpg 1080w, https://newhopecounselling.com/wp-content/uploads/2016/07/display-dummy-golden-757450_1920.jpg 1920w" sizes="(max-width: 515px) 100vw, 515px" /></p>
<p>So when someone shuts down and gets quiet as an <a href="http://newhopecounselling.com/individual-counselling-couples/">individual</a> or when someone starts flipping out (screaming, yelling, profanity, etc.) these are conditioned responses, they are reactions!  We are all conditioned whether or not we like the thought of it or not.  The good news is that we can alter the conditioning we have received.</p>
<p>To alter our conditioning is to alter body function as well.  As in my last article I discussed in some length how the spirit, mind, and body affect the body.  A simple test can be done with a conscious thought.  The next time you are lifting a weight think of a sad face and notice the strength that you have, then in turn think of a happy face and do the same thing and again notice the strength you have.  I think you will be surprised to see how thinking of a happy face can give you more physical strength.  I often use this kinesiological method to demonstrate this point more affectively.  The point being is that the conscious mind can and does affect the body’s strength, how about the unconscious mind’s ability to affect the body?  The unconscious mind’s ability is so powerful it can cause a person to faint at the sight of blood, to jump when startled, to determine the quality of sleep, the depth of breathing, raise and lower blood pressure, influence digestive processes, and much more.  If the unconscious mind is able to do this on a relatively short timeline what about days, weeks, months, years, or decades later?  Can chronic illnesses have a root cause of unresolved unconscious issues?  The answer is yes.  Both acute and chronic illnesses manifest in the body due to unresolved emotional issues often deeply buried in the unconscious mind.  I realize that pathogens can be the culprit but why do some contract the illness while others do not?  The answer lies in the deep-seated beliefs of the unconscious mind and body.</p>
<p>It is a sensitive matter to discuss the possibility that illness has a direct link to the way we have been conditioned to live our lives.  When discussing this connection between spirit, mind to the body either our society dismisses this as foolishness or becomes upset as though they are being blamed.  Dr. Gabor Mate, M.D.’s book, “When the Body Says No”, speaks of a fifty two year old university professor that vocalized her anger at him for writing about how the mind affects the body, she told him, “Why are you writing this book?&#8230; I got cancer because of my genes, not because of anything I did.”<a href="#_ftn2">[2]</a> I feel sad for those that are suffering physically and mentally, but what causes me even more sadness is when the message is misunderstood and the hope for positive change is lost.  It is unfortunate that people can misinterpret this message as being a form of blaming the victim as though their illness or death is a personal failure.  Blame and failure isn’t the issue rather the focus is on finding the cause and affect and working towards restoration of health and wellbeing.  All too often there is confusion between blame and responsibility.  Dr. Mate said, “While all of us dread being <em>blamed</em>, we all would wish to be more <em>responsible</em> – that is, to have the ability to <em>respond</em> with awareness to the circumstances of our lives rather than just reacting.”<a href="#_ftn3">[3]</a></p>
<p>The first step is to become aware of the truth that the spirit, mind and body are all intricately connected and what happens in the spirit/mind affects our body. Plato quoting Socrates said, “This is the reason why the cure of so many dieseases [sic] is unknown to the physicians of Hellas; they are ignorant of the whole. For this is the great error of our day in the treatment of the human body, that physicians separate the mind from the body.”<a href="#_ftn4">[4]</a> Without awareness we cannot take on true responsibility facilitating the change we are truly needing.  This connection needs so desperately to be understood and embraced otherwise so many more will needlessly suffer and die.  Becoming responsible is becoming aware, having the courage to take steps towards professional help, owning your own emotional reactions, and having them processed through to the point of healing.  This process involves the healing of spirit, mind, and the body and leaving out any one of these is not wise.</p>
<p>If we understand that the universal order is always spirit first physical third then we can begin to embrace this ancient understanding of why our bodies are the way they are.  Here’s a biblical quote that is worth considering, “…the things which are seen were not made of things which are visible…”<a href="#_ftn5">[5]</a> Freedom comes when we gain understanding with hope of a better tomorrow!</p>
<hr size="1" />
<p><a href="#_ftnref">[1]</a> <em>Classical Conditioning</em>, <a href="http://www.merriam-webster.com/medical/classical%20conditioning">http://www.merriam-webster.com/medical/classical conditioning</a></p>
<p><a href="#_ftnref">[2]</a> Gabor, Mate, M.D., <em>When the Body Says No: the cost of hidden stress</em> (Toronto: Vintage Canada, a division of Random House, 2003), 8.</p>
<p><a href="#_ftnref">[3]</a> IBID, 8,9.</p>
<p><a href="#_ftnref">[4]</a> Secrets Of Freedom From Headache, <em>“Not tonight honey, I have a headache”</em> <a href="http://www.singhneurology.com/headache-center.php">http://www.singhneurology.com/headache-center.php</a></p>
<p><a href="#_ftnref">[5]</a> Hebrews 11:3a, <em>New King James Version, </em>(Nashville, TN., Thomas Nelson, Inc., 1982).</p></div>
			</div>
			</div>
				
				
				
				
			</div>
				
				
			</div>
]]></content:encoded>
					
		
		
		<post-id xmlns="com-wordpress:feed-additions:1">814</post-id>	</item>
	</channel>
</rss>
