Anger management
Individualized support for understanding anger and changing destructive patterns.
Understand your anger and find a different response
Destructive anger can affect your relationships and the way you feel about yourself. Individualized, one-on-one counselling offers a place to understand what is happening and work on the changes you want to make.
What we can work on together
- Recognizing the different faces of anger.
- Noticing escalation and learning ways to de-escalate it.
- Developing emotional self-awareness and mindfulness.
- Building self-management, self-regulation and coping skills.
- Understanding your stress level and the pressures that trigger anger.
- Learning self-soothing and relaxation techniques.
- Establishing appropriate boundaries.
- Communicating assertively rather than aggressively or passively.
- De-escalating conflict situations.
A short anger reflection quiz
Reflect on these questions. Consider how often these patterns happen and how they affect you. This is not a diagnostic test.
- Do you replay hurts or arguments and find it hard to let go?
- Do you turn anger against yourself through harsh self-criticism or blame?
- Do you hold anger inside, withdraw or stop communicating instead of saying what you need?
- Does anger come out as irritability, sarcasm or cutting remarks?
- Do you raise your voice, shout or say things you later regret?
- Do you threaten, intimidate, damage things or make others feel afraid?
- Do you keep returning to a cycle of triggers, anger, regret and the same reaction again?
- Is anger affecting your relationships, work, sleep or wellbeing?
If these patterns keep returning, feel hard to control or are causing harm, counselling can help you work towards a different response. Threats, intimidation or violence deserve attention even if they happen once.
If you may hurt yourself or someone else, step away from the conflict if you can do so safely and seek urgent help. Call 911 if there is immediate danger.
A personalized approach
When anger keeps returning in the same cycle, we can explore the triggers, what happens in your body and the experiences connected with your reactions. Where trauma is contributing, we can discuss whether EMDR or Deep Brain Reorienting (DBR) is appropriate for you. EMDR is an established PTSD treatment; DBR is a newer trauma-focused approach with promising early PTSD research. We will consider your needs and readiness alongside practical ways to respond to anger safely.
Learning new skills also involves putting them into practice. Counselling provides a place to explore the obstacles, review what is changing and continue building a different response.
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Sources
- NHS. Get help with anger.
- NICE. Post-traumatic stress disorder: recommendations, guideline NG116.
- Kearney and colleagues (2023). A randomized controlled trial of Deep Brain Reorienting: a neuroscientifically guided treatment for post-traumatic stress disorder.