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Articles by James.
I invite you to explore my writing on relationships, emotions and counselling. Begin with a subject that speaks to what you are experiencing, and read at your own pace.
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Marriage & Relationships
Explore articles on marriage, communication, attachment and connection. Read the Making Marriage Work series and find related reflections on relationships.
Making Marriage Work Part 3: Owning Your Feelings
Taking responsibility for your own feelings is part of working through difficulties together.
Read article Making Marriage Work – Part 2: Humility
Explore listening, acknowledging mistakes and making room for your partner’s perspective.
Read article Making Marriage Work Part 1: Commitment
I look at commitment as a starting point for the work of marriage counselling.
Read article Falling Out Of Love - Part 4: Understanding Your Attachment Style
Explore attachment patterns and how they relate to closeness and security.
Read article Falling Out Of Love - Part 3: Signs of Love In Trouble
Consider signs that a relationship may need more attention.
Read article Falling Out Of Love - Part 2: Understanding How Love In Marriage Works
Continue the series with a closer look at love within marriage.
Read article Falling Out Of Love - Part 1: Defining Love
The first article in this series explores what we mean when we talk about love.
Read article Feeling Loved In Marriage
A reflection on the experience of feeling loved within marriage.
Read article Marriage Communication That Works
Explore communication between partners and ways to approach difficult conversations.
Read article Learning How To Communicate And How Not to Botch It Up!
Look at patterns that can get in the way when partners try to communicate.
Read article Why I Married The Person I Did?
A reflection on attraction, emotional needs and the partner we choose.
Read article How To Meet Your Wife’s Number One Need: Affection
An earlier article exploring affection in marriage.
Read article Happy Wife, Happy Life: keys to a successful marriage
An earlier reflection on expectations and difficulties within marriage.
Read article Staying Happily Married For Life: Part 2 - Equality
The second part explores equality within marriage.
Read article Staying Happily Married For Life: Part 1 - Institution of Marriage
The first part of this earlier series considers marriage as an institution.
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Emotions & Resilience
Explore emotions, sensitivity, emotional regulation and resilience. Find articles on understanding feelings, working with anger and responding to life's difficulties.
Making Marriage Work Part 3: Owning Your Feelings
Taking responsibility for your own feelings is part of working through difficulties together.
Read article Falling Out Of Love - Part 4: Understanding Your Attachment Style
Explore attachment patterns and how they relate to closeness and security.
Read article Falling Out Of Love - Part 2: Understanding How Love In Marriage Works
Continue the series with a closer look at love within marriage.
Read article Learning Emotional Regulation Through Heart-Focused Breathing
Read about heart-focused breathing in the context of emotional regulation.
Read article How do I control my feelings?
Consider the question of control and how we respond to our feelings.
Read article Heart Coherence Breathing Method
An introduction to the heart coherence breathing method.
Read article How To Be Happier And Feel Better
Explore questions about happiness and emotional wellbeing.
Read article I Can’t Seem To Stop Feeling What I am Feeling
Explore the experience of feelings that seem difficult to shift.
Read article How Can I Change My Feelings?
A reflection on change and the feelings we experience.
Read article How Can I Be More Emotionally Resilient?
Explore the question of responding to life’s difficulties with resilience.
Read article Why am I so emotionally sensitive?
Consider the experience of emotional sensitivity.
Read article Understanding Positive Emotions
A closer look at positive emotions and how we experience them.
Read article What Are The Basic Emotions?
Explore the feelings we describe as basic emotions.
Read article Understanding Emotions
Begin with an introduction to emotions and their place in everyday life.
Read article Practicing Gratitude
A reflection on noticing and practicing gratitude.
Read article Healing From Grief
Read about grief and the experience of loss.
Read article Understanding Anger
Explore anger and the situations that bring it up.
Read article Moving Beyond Depression
An earlier article discussing depression and seasonal wellbeing.
Read article Owning Your Emotions
A reflection on taking responsibility for our emotions.
Read article Letting Go of Our Expectations
Consider the expectations we carry and how they affect us.
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Trauma & EMDR
Read about traumatic experiences, post-traumatic stress and EMDR. Explore articles explaining counselling approaches and questions that may arise when considering support.
Does EMDR Cure PTSD?
Read my discussion of EMDR and post-traumatic stress disorder.
Read article What does trauma look like?
Explore how traumatic experiences can affect a person.
Read article Understanding Fraser's Dissociative Table Technique
An introduction to Fraser’s Dissociative Table Technique.
Read article EMDR Therapy Overview
An overview of EMDR therapy.
Read article Eye Movement Desensitization & Reprocessing
An introduction to Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing.
Read article Understanding Sensorimotor Psychotherapy
An introduction to Sensorimotor Psychotherapy.
Read article What Are The Symptoms of Post-traumatic Stress Disorder?
An article describing experiences associated with post-traumatic stress.
Read article Understanding and Treating Post-traumatic Stress Disorder
An overview of post-traumatic stress and approaches discussed in this article.
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Mind Body
Explore the connections between emotional life, stress and the body. Read about breathing, balance and the spirit, mind and body framework discussed in these articles.
Learning Emotional Regulation Through Heart-Focused Breathing
Read about heart-focused breathing in the context of emotional regulation.
Read article Heart Coherence Breathing Method
An introduction to the heart coherence breathing method.
Read article Understanding Sensorimotor Psychotherapy
An introduction to Sensorimotor Psychotherapy.
Read article Emotional Freedom Techniques Overview
An overview of Emotional Freedom Techniques.
Read article How To Get Free Of Stress
A closer look at pressures, perceived stress and everyday demands.
Read article What Is The Unconscious Mind?
Read my discussion of the unconscious mind.
Read article Staying Healthy: Emotional Stress And The Immune System
Explore emotional stress, the immune system and caring for the whole person.
Read article Pathway to Better Health
An earlier reflection on health and wellbeing.
Read article Steps To A Balanced Life
An earlier article exploring balance in daily life.
Read article Liver and Your Emotions According to Chinese Medicine
An earlier article discussing emotions from a Chinese medicine perspective.
Read article The Spirit, Mind, Body Connection: part 3 – the body
The third part considers the body.
Read article The Spirit, Mind, Body Connection: part 2 – the mind
The second part considers the mind.
Read article The Spirit, Mind, Body Connection: part 1 - the spirit
The first part of an earlier series looks at the spiritual dimension.
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Life Issues
Find articles on grief, depression, addictions, expectations and feeling stuck. Explore reflections on everyday challenges, change and finding balance in life.
How To Be Happier And Feel Better
Explore questions about happiness and emotional wellbeing.
Read article Practicing Gratitude
A reflection on noticing and practicing gratitude.
Read article Healing From Grief
Read about grief and the experience of loss.
Read article FSAP An Addiction Therapy
Read about the Feeling-State Addiction Protocol.
Read article How To Get Free Of Stress
A closer look at pressures, perceived stress and everyday demands.
Read article Moving Beyond Depression
An earlier article discussing depression and seasonal wellbeing.
Read article Men Die Earlier and Suffer More
An earlier reflection on men’s health.
Read article Getting Unstuck!
Explore the experience of feeling stuck and the question of change.
Read article How Addictions Are Formed
Explore the subject of how addictions develop.
Read article Steps To A Balanced Life
An earlier article exploring balance in daily life.
Read article Letting Go of Our Expectations
Consider the expectations we carry and how they affect us.
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Understanding Yourself & Counselling
Explore self-understanding, perceptions, the unconscious mind and dream work. Read about counselling approaches, professional roles and how to get the most out of counselling.
How To Get The Most Out Of Counselling
Consider how you can take an active part in counselling.
Read article Understanding Fraser's Dissociative Table Technique
An introduction to Fraser’s Dissociative Table Technique.
Read article Understanding And Working With Dreams
Read about my interest in understanding and working with dreams.
Read article Emotional Freedom Techniques Overview
An overview of Emotional Freedom Techniques.
Read article FSAP An Addiction Therapy
Read about the Feeling-State Addiction Protocol.
Read article What Is The Unconscious Mind?
Read my discussion of the unconscious mind.
Read article Resolving Defence Mechanisms Through Psychotherapy
Explore defence mechanisms in the context of psychotherapy.
Read article Psychologists, Psychiatrists, Psychotherapists... What's The Difference?
Explore differences between these professional roles.
Read article Perceptions: Truth or Consequences? - Part 2
The second article continues the discussion of perceptions and their consequences.
Read article Perceptions: Can We Trust Them? - Part 1
The first of two articles considers how we understand our perceptions.
Read article When you are ready
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