I Can’t Seem To Stop Feeling What I am Feeling

There are those times in life where we try to change but we are unsuccessful in doing so.  Why can I not change how I feel on my own?  The answer oversimplified is because we need other people to help us.  

Learned Feelings From Childhood

We learned our emotions from our mother on a physiological level from our mothers in utero.  Through the umbilical cord the child learns emotions through the nervous system and hormonal system.  What the mother thinks and feels and experiences is transmitted to the infant through the nervous system and through the blood flow that carries hormones from mother to the child through the attachment of the umbilical cord.  This is how we all first learned to experience emotions, through our physical connection with our mother.

Learned emotions from mom

We also learned emotions and feelings from how our mother looked at us and spoke to us.  Did our mother look into our eyes and gaze at us with emotional connection of love and adoration or was our mother distant in her mind, what she watching television, or in today’s world on the cell phone or computer instead of making that eye connection to help create a secure emotional bonding.  Through this quality of experience we begin to either feel emotionally safe or emotionally unsafe. 

Learned emotions from your home environment

We learn emotions from our home dynamics how people spoke to each other and acted towards each other.  Was the home environment physically affectionate and loving?  Was the home environment full of conflict and possibly violent?  Was our home ambivalent and emotionally detached and indifferent?  We can have a mixture of these types of environments also.  The environment we grew up in is how we learned to feel and how we learned to emotionally regulate and attach to other people around us.

Emotional connection, emotional upheavals, emotional issues all stem from childhood because of the emotional skills our parents handed down to us through their emotions intelligence.  Blaming is not the answer anymore than denial is but recognizing and understanding where things came from and then pursuing healthy emotional changes takes courage and commitment.  With therapies like EMDR, Homeopathy and others we can overcome our insufficiencies and weakness and gain the emotional balance we need.  Call today! 

 

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