Why am I so emotionally sensitive?
Emotional hurts and ups and downs can be explained and can be resolved.
We can feel emotionally sensitive because we have been disappointed, harmed and or neglected in life especially in childhood as childhood is very impactful as it influences the rest of our earthly life. When we have not felt emotionally safe in childhood then we will have difficulty feeling safe in adult hood. If we feel needy in adulthood it could be because our basic needs in childhood were not met.
Emotional resiliency
Emotional resilience starts in utero where the internal environment for the child specifically through blood and nerves through the umbilical cord are transmitted from the mother to the child. When a mother is feeling calm, safe, and loved the child will also feel the same, when the mother is feeling distressed, unloved, or in danger then the child will experience that as well. Yes, the child is learning emotions from their mother on a physical level but much deeper than that the child’s gene’s are being programmed to better live in the outer world environment when they are born. This happens whether or not the mother’s emotional responses are accurate to the environment or not.
Further to that emotional resilience comes when we in childhood were emotionally tended to when we were in distress. If our parents were quick to meet our emotional needs in childhood where they were able to emotionally rescue us and soothe us then in adulthood we would be less emotionally sensitive or we would be less emotional as some put it.
When we are too emotionally fragile we can not attain to positive feelings or healthy living.
Emotions are meant to be flexible where we can bounce back. Better to be flexible than broken. Some times that is easier said than done. Emotional resilience is essential for good living. To attain to greater emotional resilience we have to have help. Self-helps can help but often is not enough. Before we blame others for our hurts and lack of happiness let us go on a journey that will bring strength, resilience, and happiness. Yes it takes work but you are worth it ! Check out the various therapies that James Miklos uses to help people:
EMDR
EFT
Life Coaching
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Written by James A. Miklos, MCC. James has been counselling providing mental health therapy for over 25 years. James has numerous publications and periodicals, he has also self-published the book, “The Biblical Art of Dream Interpretation”. He also is available for speaking engagements as well as conducting workshops and seminars as well.
In addition, James Miklos holds memberships and accreditations with the following recognized organizations:
- College of Registered Psychotherapists of Ontario
- CASC – Canadian Association for Spiritual Care
- ACTA – The Association of Counselling Therapy of Alberta Registered as Counselling Therapist
- EMDR Canada
- EMDRIA
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