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Making Marriage Work Part 3: Owning Your Feelings
Making Marriage Work Part 3: Owning Your FeelingsFor Marriage Counselling to work you have to take responsibility of your own feelings. Owning your feelings takes commitment and humility. Owning your own feelings is critical to making your marriage a good one....
Making Marriage Work – Part 2: Humility
Making Marriage Work Part 2: HumilityFor Marriage Counselling to work you have to exercise humility Humility? You may be wondering what that has to do with marriage. Without humility there can not be true love in a marriage neither can you ever effectively...
Making Marriage Work Part 1: Commitment
Making Marriage Work - Part 1: CommitmentFor Marriage Counselling to work you have to be committed When coming to marriage counselling there are some essential things that need to be understood in order for marriage counselling to work. Marriage counselling is for...
Falling Out Of Love – Part 4: Understanding Your Attachment Style
Falling Out Of Love – Part 4: Understanding Your Attachment StyleUnderstanding what your attachment style is critical to secure and fulfilling intimacyAnother reason people “fall out of love” is because of their attachment style. This is not the same as personality...
Falling Out Of Love – Part 3: Signs of Love In Trouble
Knowing what to look for you can resolve the lack of love. Love in trouble can be recognized and resolved if we know what to look for. There are a number of key things that a person needs to look for in a love relationship that culminates in marriage and that is...
Falling Out Of Love – Part 2: Understanding How Love In Marriage Works
Falling Out Of Love - Part 2: Understanding How Love In Marriage Works There are two sides of love. When we hear the phrase “love in marriage” it can stir up a desire to be married or stir up feelings of hurt and disappointment from a failed marriage or...
Does EMDR Cure PTSD?
Does EMDR cure PTSD? EMDR shows that the mind can heal from emotional trauma as the body heals from physical wounds. Does EMDR work on PTSD? EMDR (Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing) therapy has been gaining credibility over the past 30 years within the...
Falling Out Of Love – Part 1: Defining Love
Falling Out Of Love - Part 1: Defining Love Without understanding and defining what love is you will fall victim to broken relationshipsFalling in love is such a beautiful thing. The Hallmark channel and other romantic venues make this their primary focus offering...
Feeling Loved In Marriage
Feeling Loved In Marriage The keys to feeling loved in marriage. Everyone wants to feel loved that is one big reason you decided to get married. But, with so many definitions and thoughts about love it can get a bit confusing. I cannot address all the aspects of...
How To Get The Most Out Of Counselling
How To Get The Most Out Of Counselling Getting the most out of therapyTo get the most out of therapy takes a few steps of preparation. Since you are probably paying for your therapy or counselling sessions it would be prudent to come prepared to listen,...
Learning Emotional Regulation Through Heart-Focused Breathing
Emotional Regulation Through Heart Coherence What is heart focused breathing? The Heart Math Institute out of California has developed a scientifically sound method of calming your nervous system through what is called heart focused breathing. Heart focused breathing...
How do I control my feelings?
How do I control my feelings?Emotional regulation is possibly the most important thing to develop and learnWhat does emotional regulation look like? A person who is emotionally well regulated is a person who has a secure attachment or at least worked on themselves...
What does trauma look like?
What does trauma look like? Physiological and psychological trauma can have a profound impact on the brain. When someone experiences trauma it can mean having difficulty in forming and maintaining healthy relationships with others. It is common that a person who has...
Heart Coherence Breathing Method
Heart Coherence No Prescription Needed. For Any Age! (See Product Details Below) What Is Heart Coherence? Heart coherence is when the physical heart and brain are able to get into sync with each through the nervous system which gives substantial benefits to the one...
How To Be Happier And Feel Better
How To Be Happier And Feel Better Improving your social social choices improves your happiness To be happier and feel better does not come through desire rather through professional help. Yes, there are things that you can do to feel better but eventually you will...
I Can’t Seem To Stop Feeling What I am Feeling
I Can’t Seem To Stop Feeling What I am Feeling Feelings and moods can change when you reprogram your emotional brain. There are those times in life where we try to change but we are unsuccessful in doing so. Why can I not change how I feel on my own? The answer...
How Can I Change My Feelings?
How Can I Change My Feelings? Feelings can change even though you feel they never will. Changing your feelings are a very real possibility but it does take three things to change your feelings, 1. Educating yourself about feelings, cognition, adverse life experiences,...
How Can I Be More Emotionally Resilient?
How Can I Be More Emotionally Resilient? Emotional maturity, resiliency, stability can be achieved through some personal therapeutic work Why Am I Emotionally Unstable or Unavailable? Our emotional stability has a lot to do with emotional resilience which is a...
Why am I so emotionally sensitive?
Why am I so emotionally sensitive? Emotional hurts and ups and downs can be explained and can be resolved. We can feel emotionally sensitive because we have been disappointed, harmed and or neglected in life especially in childhood as childhood is very impactful as it...
Understanding Positive Emotions
Part 3: Understanding Positive Emotions or Emotions That Can Be Life Enhancing For us to better function better in our life, marriage, and work we need to be able to identify emotions. Life Enhancing Emotions We can now observe the opposites to these emotions: ...
What Are The Basic Emotions?
Negative Emotions - Part 2 Basic emotions There are numerous theories as to how many basic emotions we have such as: theory by Paul Ekman, The James-Lange Theory of Emotion, The Cannon-Bard Theory of Emotion, Schachter-Singer Theory, Richard Lazarus’ Cognitive...
Understanding Emotions
What am I feeling? What do these feelings mean? First steps to understanding your emotions - Part 1 Are emotions and feelings the same? There are many words to describe how we feel but feelings are not the same as emotions. Feelings can be described as emotions...
Marriage Communication That Works
Learning how to communicate is the most important step to a successful marriage relationship Three Ways To Communicate According to Transactional Analysis there are three states or ways of communicating in marriage. Observe below: Parent to Child Child to Parent...
Understanding Fraser’s Dissociative Table Technique
Effective way of healing dissociation Origin of Fraser’s Dissociative Table Technique Fraser’s Dissociative Table Technique is an adjunct technique that James Miklos, MCC, R.P. uses in his EMDR therapy. This technique was developed by Dr. George A. Fraser who is a...
EMDR Therapy Overview
Overview of EMDR EMDR (Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing) is a powerful therapy that can resolve your issues more quickly and is also a great way to improve on personal performance and self-esteem. What is EMDR Therapy? EMDR is a bilateral stimulation...
Eye Movement Desensitization & Reprocessing
Eye Movement Desensitization & ReprocessingEye Movement Desensitization & Reprocessing is also known as EMDRWhat is EMDR? According to the American Psychological Association: (Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing) EMDR Therapy Is a structured therapy...
Understanding Sensorimotor Psychotherapy
Sensorimotor Psychotherapy A body oriented therapy for trauma resolution. What is Sensorimotor Psychotherapy? trauma is stored in the parts of the brain and even in parts of the body that evoke for us not only disturbing thoughts and images but also physical reactions...
Understanding And Working With Dreams
Understanding And Working With Dreams Dream interpretation is a powerful tool in helping people to move forward in life. James Miklos explains the unique ancient hebraic methodology. Working with dreams can be very self-revealing allowing the client to come to a...
Emotional Freedom Techniques Overview
Emotional Freedom Techniques Emotional Freedom Techniques is a powerful self-help method that can empower and transform a person’s life. This method has shown through clinical trials that EFT is able to quickly and safely reduce emotions that contribute to distress...
Practicing Gratitude
More and more people are beginning to realize the power of practicing gratitude. There have been a number of studies researched, performed and published in the last two decades by such prestigious institutions such as Berkeley, Harvard, and Stanford. Though the practice of gratitude
Healing From Grief
Steps to recovering from grief Defining Grief Grief is defined by Merriam-Webster “as deep and poignant distress caused by or as if by bereavement”. Some other words that that correlate with grief are affliction, anguish, heartache, sorrow, woe, and heartbreak....
FSAP An Addiction Therapy
Is your behaviour destroying your life? Is your life out of control?Do You... Smoke, use street or prescription drugs for recreational purposes? Are you self-medicating? Compulsive gambling? Sex or pornography addictions? Are you involved with shoplifting? Do you...
How To Get Free Of Stress
There are numerous things that cause stress, such as situations and circumstances that are perceived or actual pressures. Though stress is often perceived as external but it is also internal. Internal stress is perceived stress and which is the result of our past and probably that of our childhood. Negative external stressors can include work schedules, performance demands, marital difficulties, a troubled child, a family sickness, change of a job, and much more. Positive external stressors can include getting married, going to school, receiving a…
What Is The Unconscious Mind?
Though there are some who deny the existence of the unconscious mind but by defining it you will better understand the reasoning behind it and its importance. The unconscious mind is not unconscious in the sense of being in some state of a coma, rather it is better understood as that part of our brain or our soul that our conscious or rational, cognitive mind is to some degree unaware of. The unconscious mind is that part of the brain and soul of a person that has been called as the right brain, the imaginative, playful, creative, emotional and most…
What Are The Symptoms of Post-traumatic Stress Disorder?
PTSD symptoms are categorized in the DSM-V into four major symptoms which are Flashbacks, Hypervigilance, Negative thoughts, and Avoidance of people, places or things. Most other symptoms of Post-traumatic stress can fit into these four major areas but they can often look different from person to person, age to age and gender to gender. Below is a list of possible PTSD symptoms that a person can experience, though some of these symptoms can be the result of other medical complications or be intertwined. It is best when looking at these various…
Understanding and Treating Post-traumatic Stress Disorder
Emergency wards in hospitals at times are occupied by those who think they are having a heart attack, intestinal issues, severe abdominal pains, or even a stroke when in actuality they are having a panic attack. PTSD can be debilitating if not treated immediately. Curing PTSD is more important than masking it. Yes, curing Post-traumatic stress can be a reality for you!
How does Post-traumatic Stress Disorder develop? Post-traumatic stress disorder or PTSD develops when a shocking, upsetting, or terrifying event occurs that you have witnessed…
Learning How To Communicate And How Not to Botch It Up!
Poor communication in marriage can be a very serious problem but the good news is that the problem is fixable. Communication at best can be a tricky endeavour especially when your own feelings and beliefs get in the way. Fred and Doris, who came in for some counselling, have been married for over 10 years. They have become increasingly frustrated with each other and have grown apart. This couple once happily married no longer feels love for each other. Where they used to laugh and play together now they avoid each other and when they…
Understanding Anger
Anger is a basic human emotion that we all experience. Anger can be defined as experiencing displeasure in something or someone deemed to be a threat, harmful or evil. Anger is part of what is called the fight mechanism in our body which is often caused by anxiety when there is a perceived threat to self, to ones rights, possessions or moral and ethical values. Anger is aroused by anxiety because of a perceived threat to one’s self, possessions, rights, or values. We can experience anger when we feel blocked or prevented from saying or doing…
Resolving Defence Mechanisms Through Psychotherapy
My wife and I went to visit some friends and shortly after arriving our hostess began to tell us all about the self-help books she had been reading and how she now understood her problems and how to resolve them. She was very pleased with herself but also quite...
Psychologists, Psychiatrists, Psychotherapists… What’s The Difference?
The differences between Psychiatrists, Psychologists, Psychotherapists and Counsellors can be both diverse and similar. Most people know the term Psychologist, but here we will break down the difference between all of these.
Defeating Depression Naturally
Defeating Depression Naturally Written by James Miklos, MCC, R.P. There have been numerous studies in recent years where Omega-3 fatty acids, found in fish, can naturally ease or possibly eliminate depression. Past studies have revealed that people who lived in...
Why I Married The Person I Did?
Unless you had a pre-arranged marriage you married for “love”. Let’s be more precise, you married because your emotional needs were being met by the one you had been dating and engaged to. Here is where the problem comes into play.
Your unconscious mind is that part of you that is much like…
How To Meet Your Wife’s Number One Need: Affection
Women need to feel from their husband a gentle feeling of fondness; affection if you will. They crave gentleness, tenderness, warmth, devotion, endearment, where they feel cared for. Affection can be expressed in numerous ways. Some of these ways can include:...
Moving Beyond Depression
Introduction Do you feel blue this time of year? Christmas time and through the winter season in the Northern Hemisphere tends to be when we have the least amount of good sunlight, we eat lots of sugar, drink alcohol, eat processed foods, stress over numerous...
Men Die Earlier and Suffer More
When it comes to men’s’ health issues, both men and women are equally apathetic. A radical feminist joke goes like this, “Why do men die earlier than women? Because they deserve it!” Some of you reading this might be quietly say, “Yah, I agree!” As odd as it may...
Staying Healthy: Emotional Stress And The Immune System
In the dead of winter about 10 years ago I went through a number of emotionally trying situations all taking place within a relatively short period of time. My wife tried unsuccessfully to console me. It was a difficult time. We just had a number of things happen...
Happy Wife, Happy Life: keys to a successful marriage
“I’m leaving!” “I think we should get a divorce!” “Why did you sleep with her?”More than ever in recent history has there been more divorces and separations than in our present society. Over 50% of all marriages fail, over 90% of all common-law relationships fail. ...
Defeating Depression Naturally
Written by James Miklos, MCC, R.P. There have been numerous studies in recent years where Omega-3 fatty acids, found in fish, can naturally ease or possibly eliminate depression. Past studies have revealed that people who lived in countries where large quantities of...
Getting Unstuck!
Most of us at some point in our lives will feel stuck. We can feel stuck in our careers, stuck in personal development, stuck spiritually, stuck mentally and emotionally, and even stuck in our physical health. First, let me say that there are no magic pills, words or...
How Addictions Are Formed
Addictions are created when a desired feeling and behaviour become fixated together. For example, if the feeling of being a winner has become fixated with the behavior of gambling, the person gambles in order to feel like a winner. Even when he loses, the fixation...
